💕3 Ways To Stop Valentines Day From Destroying Your Relationship

Valentines day is around the corner and you can bet your bottom dollar (or naira… or dollar since it’s higher than naira) that a lot of relationships would be broken due to a lot of things and the major culprit that tops the list is unmet expectations.

Ladies would expect men to treat them like godesses and me would expect mad sex afterwards. Here are 3 ways to change your thinking about Valentine’s Day before your expectations destroy your relationship for good.

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1. TRY AND GET SOME PERSPECTIVE: The value of your relationship isn’t contingent upon expectations and unrealistic romantic desires for one single day. Don’t let the way this day evolves decide the fate of your relationship.

You are where you are in your relationship for many reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with Valentine’s Day.

2. TRY FOCUSING ON YOUR PARTNER RATHER THAN WHAT YOU’D GET FROM THEM: Make the day about valuing them. Show your appreciation for your partner in whatever way is most genuine for you. If you are willing to let go of your romanticized expectations, you can’t be held emotionally hostage by the day.You may feel hurt or resentful about what your part has or hasn’t done for you in the past year. That’s Ok. You can still find something to appreciate about them and do something to acknowledge it.

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3. FOCUS ON WORKING TOWARDS SOMETHING BETTER: Make a commitment to elevate the standard you live by in relation to interacting with your partner. Even if you think they are to blame for every challenge in your relationship, the likelihood is that you haven’t been 100 percent perfect. Any relationship is a shared responsibility.

Today’s the day you can begin to shift and improve your relationship. Don’t withhold your love, compliments, respect, attention, or sex because you are upset or think they owe you. And stop keeping score, it’s the easiest way to get stuck in feeling resentful.